Today I’ve got one of my very favorite people on. Sinclair is WICKED smart and is trained traditionally as a naturopath. But she has become VERY thoroughly trained, well-known expert in liver health and toxicity and the ROOT ROOT cause of a lot of what is causing a lot of other issues in our body. I have learned SO much from her. Our liver health determines SO MUCH of our health overall. 80% of women over 40 have toxic sluggish bile in their liver and are struggling with an underperforming liver 🙀
Dr. Anna Cabeca (aka The Girlfriend Doctor) is the best! She is wicked smart and full of SUCH good information. Today I had her on because we are here to talk about the Midlife Va Jay Jay! Issues like dryness, sexual health, appearance changes, and what the heck is what happens when we sneeze?! I know a lot of women are walking around embarrassed about this, but I want to bring light to what is normal and expected and to let you know that you’re not alone! Let’s dive in!
We are talking all things metabolic dysfunction — how to prevent it, how to identify it, and how to reverse and repair it! This conversation came about on a party boat…and we were the only ones NOT partying lol. But I was telling her about my blood sugar debacle that is now resolved (yay!) but she brought up a LOT of great topics to consider around metabolic dysfunction. This talk will save A LOT of time and probably A LOT of money skirting around the system. Let’s dive in!
Clark is one of my FAVORITE humans, who does NOT look like your average 59 year old. He lives the work and is as fit as they come. I really wanted to have a guys perspective on the show to school us on how to be THIS fit in midlife. We are both in alignment in how midlife should look. It’s a simple shift from where you’re currently at to where you COULD be and SHOULD be!
If you follow me on social media, you know I am OBSESSED with Dan’s book “Buy Back Your Time”. I listened to it about 6 times and have since told everyone in my life to go buy it! If I would have found this book about 10 years ago he would have saves me A LOT of time and money! As I was listening to it, I felt proud of myself for doing it in BUSINESS…but I asked myself…”Am I doing this for my PERSONAL life?!” So many people, especially in Midlife, know that we need to kick it up a notch in terms of taking care of ourselves, but we run into the barrier of “I don’t have time!” In the midst of all the BUSY-ness in life, we need to stop to think that, after all, our time is not guaranteed. This is a powerful perspective to consider as you plan out your days and weeks. This is the heart of Dan Martell’s message in his book, Buy Back Your Time, where he shares valuable insights to help us improve our lives, permit ourselves to make different decisions and invest in something that supports our future.
What Comes First? The Hustle or the Time?
We don’t become rich and then get to live a life where we do things we love to do that creates a lot of value. It’s because we honor that FIRST, that then creates the outcomes. Take for example, Richard Brunson. In the middle of a 100+ million problem, he was present on a trip. This is possible because of his assistant, Helen, who serves as his “time protector”. Nobody gets to Richard without going through Helen. She deals with 99% of the requests regarding Richard’s time. She knows his schedule better, she knows the resources, etc. He has set rules to protect his time and energy for the activities that light him up and honors his preferences.
Ask yourself, what are the things that give and take your energy as you do them? In time, how can you design your life to do MORE of those things that give you energy? How can you design your perfect day? What would it look like?
When We Say YES to Something, We Are Inadvertently Saying NO
When we say yes (whether conscious or unconscious) to certain behaviors, we are saying no to what we could be doing instead. If you say yes to scrolling social media for 3.5 hours, you are saying no to using those 3.5 hours to build a deeper relationship with your family/best friend, etc. The thing is…most people aren’t aware they are doing this because they don’t measure it. Dan recommends setting INTENTION behind the ways you spend your time. Some of his favorite questions to ask are: If you only had 5 years to live, what would you do with your life? If you only had 1 year to live, what would you do? If you only had 2 weeks left to live, what would you do?
How to Get Out of the IM TOO BUSY Status
Consider the way you are operating is NOT going to get your the outcomes you want to achieve — if it were, it would have happened already. Who you are today is not the person you need to become to achieve the dreams and goals you have for your life. If you were — they would be there. Often times we are so busy doing work that we don’t step back and look at the forest from the trees. Chaos can be addicting because it feels like movement forward and anyone who is a high performer likely went through a chaotic event at some point and enables us to operate in higher level of uncertainty. This is great, but also can hold you back when your goal is to “do more”. Use the mirror on yourself to ask who you need to become, as the chaos problem to solve. There will always be problems, the only thing that will change, is if you’re becoming the person who can deal with a higher level of problems, unemotionally.
“I Can’t Afford It”
There is a formula for this…a buy back rate. Dan’s recommendation for making a decision on who he can hire at what point relies on one formula: (Your Net Income / 2000) / 4. This is what you make on average per hour divided by 4, so you can get a 4x ROI on your investment. This means, if you made 100k/year, you average about $50/hr. Divide that by 4, and you should hire someone for $12.50/hour. The key is you buy back to get a 4:1 — so you can trade up and do four times more with your personal time! Sometimes (often times) it’s more about the resourcefulness and the creativity on how to get things done.
I will leave you here with one of my FAVORITE quotes by Dan: “80% done by someone else is 100% effin awesome!”
This and SO much more on this episode!
About Dan Martell
DAN MARTELL is an award-winning entrepreneur, angel investor, thought leader, and highly sought-after coach in the software as a service industry. He founded, scaled, and successfully exited three technology companies within a ten year period. In 2012 he was named Canada’s top angel investor, having invested in more than fifty start-ups, such as Intercom, Udemy, and Unbounce.
In this episode, you will learn:
Buy back your time in business and life
Richard Branson’s concept of time
Assess activities that give you energy and those that drain you
Dan’s recommended exercise
Handling uncertainty, challenges, and pain
The false belief of “I can’t afford it”
Calculate the “buyback rate”
Focus on activities that bring joy and satisfaction
